If you're a married woman reading about David Finch's behaviors, you may begin to wonder if your own husband has Asperger syndrome. As Dave Barry notes on the book jacket, a lot of what David was doing and not doing falls in the category of "acting like a guy." But for an Aspie guy the cluelessness is genuine, and absolutely everything must be spelled out for him. Finch was married for five years before he got his diagnosis. After that, he set out to become the best possible husband he could be. He had to take a lot of notes to remind himself how to behave, because Aspie brains don't make the connections we neurotypicals take for granted. This book made me laugh and cry and snort. I admire Finch's humility and humor and determination to give his wife the husband she deserves. Kristen is a goddess. No woman I know would be that patient and forgiving. But then, no man I know possesses David's humble candor and dedication to self-improvement. Happily ever after never looks like the Disney movies, but David and Kristen have rowed hard together up the Asperger stream to find a realistic version of that dream. Any married couple could take lessons from their efforts.
